That’s a good and holy desire, and in fact a spiritually healthy desire, as pride pulls us away from God and service brings us closer to God.So “putting up with that” isn’t blessing him, it’s hurting him.If we live in the first dimension (“How can I bless you?
…You want something but don’t get it.” James 4:1, 2). So she doesn’t “give way” and allow him to maintain a separate sexual life apart from their intimacy.
But let’s be honest here, they really can not understand how important it is. If you do not, you do not understand what the fuss is and you think those who believe are naive. We are here on this earth to help each other find meaning in life. If someone can not see there is complex stratification of reality, I would drop them like a bad habit. If you are married, understand this, everyone has the light of God in them even if they do not see in themselves.
They might have some abstract intellectual understanding of the issue and respect you. If you have it, you can say to the mountain ‘move’, and it will move. However, if you date someone who understands you as a whole person, body, mind and soul than your connection will be deeper and you will have true love. It does not matter is your are smart or rich or poor and uneducated. If you do not have this now, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Her desire is that her husband not keep a stash of pornography. She “blesses” him by saying, “No, I won’t stand for this.” Another scenario: let’s say a husband is married to his church.
He’s ignoring his wife and kids, or, perhaps better said, making them less a priority.
There is no substitute for two solitudes in life that come together with this same vision.