But when it came down to it, I couldn’t find a more accurate alternative. I’ve spent the last few years interviewing over 700 older people about love, relationships, and marriage (described in a new book on the topic).However I tried to convey their advice on this issue, behind me I could hear these wise elders shouting this lesson to younger people: Over and over, when it comes to marriage the elders point to decisions that completely ignore the evidence and show bad judgment.They then told their victim that it would cost to take the information down. I debated about the title of this post, wondering whether my wording was too blunt a prescription for choosing a partner.We were walking up the stairs and he took a whole bunch of change out of his pocket and he said some terrible things and threw all of his money down the stairs because he was very angry that we had missed the train.And when that happened, I looked at that person and I said: “This is not a person I want to spend my life with!The smooth criminals often create their profiles based on the personal information that their target provides online, and use pictures of other people to pass off as their own.
On this issue, the elders are unequivocal: If your partner hits you or tries to hurt you in any way, get out. ‘I kept asking him where my car was and he just made up excuses.