I have 15 yrs on in the biggest PD & I don't date cops, so I totally understand. It is exactly what you said, a notch on the belt or an intimidation factor.I actually find most of the male cops are actually married to stay at home moms or women that are rather docile & subservient. Women look for equals, men look for the damsel in distress.This is a result of men getting married and no longer dating, older men dating younger women, and the higher male mortality rate.
Even with all the incredible technology out there to help people connect, there appear to be a couple of consistent truths in dating as a female officer no matter how old you are or how scared you may be to get out there and try to meet someone. During the course of the relationship he is promoted. On top of this, being a female, I am constantlky subject to rumor after rumor, and a lot of sexual harrassment...I am in the Buena Park, California area should anyone like to comment. Dated two female cops in my short time as a cop myself... Second one was super nice and caring at the beginning but shortly turned into a super bitch.