Dating a man who is always broke
Often, a younger guy and an older woman would “decide” upfront that their relationship will be casual, and that they should not expect any commitment from each other, because they know that the end of that relationship is inevitable because of the seemingly irreconcilable age difference.
Ironically however, as their relationship is not clouded by fears and complications of commitment, long-term relationships and related issues.
Yet all I hear about, over and over, is the amazing, tall, cute, sexy, charismatic, funny, successful guy who breaks your heart when he doesn’t want to commit to you. Face it; your ex isn’t as great as you think he is. But in practice, he’s a terrible life partner for you for one reason.
And of course, it’s not a secret that women in their thirties and forties have a much higher sex driver than the ones in their twenties.
I invite you to think of the last time you were emotionally invested in a man. This exact scenario happened recently with my client, Wanda, who was still recovering from a short relationship with a man she met on JDate. So Wanda has remained friends with her ex – and has remained in love with him as well. She’s hoping that their friendship turns back into a relationship.
It could have been a promising prospect you met online, it could have been your boyfriend of five months, it could have been your fiancé. You stake your dreams on the integrity of your relationship, only to find out that he had eyes for someone else, that he had major issues with you, or that he wasn’t ready to commit to you. They had gotten physical after 5 dates, took down their profiles, and gave an exclusive relationship a shot. Said he wasn’t feeling what he thought he should be feeling. Needless to say, it’s extremely hard for her to move on. It’s not that she’s wrong; Wanda can’t help herself. She’s “dating” but not really giving herself to the process. If you’re still holding onto a man from your past, my e Book, Why He Disappeared will show you how to instantly let go.
The common denominator is that this man, who took your breath away and gave you hope, ultimately left you. She felt that dizzy, passionate, “in love” feeling, and even though the ex is gone, the feeling still lingers. In other words, she is pining for the return of a man who does not love her unconditionally. But let me ask you: don’t you think your future husband should love you unconditionally?
Because you weren’t the one who ended things, your feelings remained as strong after you were dumped as they were before you were dumped. He might have broken up with you, but that doesn’t mean you love him any less.
Young guys have a stronger sex drive and are naturally hungrier for a woman’s body.