Dating a guy with trust issues
Unfortunately, his ex-wife cheated on him, and married her lover the day after their divorce was final.
I just wanted to know, in a general way, what does it take for a man to get over being cheated on by an ex-wife, particularly if it has been many years now, and he still seems to be putting up walls?
Let’s look at where trust issues in relationships stem from.
There are tons of reasons someone might not be able to trust their partner.
This arrangement pretty much meant that he openly cheated on her while she remained faithful to him, hoping that he’d change.
She was free to do the same, except she didn’t want to.
He may never “get over” the experience of having blind faith in a partner; I know my wife hasn’t.
But, if he’s emotionally available – and thereby, a suitable partner – he’ll realize that you have nothing to do with his ex-wife.
Then again, is it possible that youre doing something to make him distrustful? If, after being totally honest with yourself, you cant pinpoint anything you might be doing to contribute to his jealousy, you should say something to him about it.Most of the information I have found on the internet dealing with divorced men pertains to issues surrounding the recently divorced, and most of the information about cheating has to do with divorced men who cheat, not men who were the cheatees rather than the cheaters. All you have to do is look at it from another angle.Do you have any general advice for a (never married) woman dating a long-divorced man who has trust issues going back 16 years to an unfaithful first wife? If you were ever cheated upon, what would your partner have to do to convince you that he’s safe?This experience scarred her and all of her trust issues came to surface when she started dating a very flirty burgeoning dating coach.
She could never believe that a man like me who appreciated other women wouldn’t cheat on her, and she broke up with me (about three times, to be exact.) I only share that story as an example of how you can have your heart in the right place, but still not do anything to assuage someone with deep seated issues.I have been dating a guy I met online for about 3 months now. My boyfriend has many good qualities, and I really like him a lot (I’m starting to love him).