Again boomers dating guide
Social mores and the media do not make it easy for older women.
While older men are still often conveyed as sexy and desirable, older women are usually given a shelf life.
She was able to have fun with the dating, because she felt good about herself, and she was able to navigate effectively through a few “frogs,” because she was clear about what she was looking for in a partner.
In closing, I hope Martha’s and Andrea’s stories and my own reflections have helped clear out some fears and provide direction if you or a loved one is battling fears about dating later in life.
During transition times attitude is extremely important, and a strong, positive attitude can really help.
However, so often this is not what women experience during transitions; instead, old traumas and big fears surface.
She was lonely, but she also had self-esteem issues and didn’t like her body. She complained that she was too old, too fat, too…. Martha had some work to do around shifting her attitude.Once she felt better about herself she was able to define more clearly what she wanted in a partner, and she was more able to feel like she deserved that someone special.Martha told me that this is what she likes about online dating.Pretty soon she started to feel better about herself and more confident. She put a picture and a profile on a dating site for 50 people called She tells me that when she is with her lover she feels like a teenager again.
When I see her these days she is so vibrant and alive, she positively glows!
She nurtured and fostered the relationship, and it very quickly blossomed. Andrea was not ready to start dating until she was done with her grieving process around her ex-partner.